Once we get to a stressful situation we retract or go back to familiar or comfortable no matter how sad we are about it. It holds us back from going forward because this is the spot we always quit. It becomes a habit and we start to embody The victim mentality to be exact ! Poor me !!! So how do you cross the line ?
Your support system has to be objective enough to give you the truth you don’t want to hear. The people around you often become enabler and feed into your self doubt . That becomes a vicious cycle because as we know reverting back to poor me is easy , painfully comfortable bc it’s familiar. We want to know the future . Uncertainty is scary but that is exactly where you ll see the most rewarding change . Victim mentality is your identity. Once you achieved your goal have your mindset adjusted to progress you forward .
To be fulfilled which what we all aspire to be even you focus on “happiness” requires for you to do Something hard. Something that makes you stronger, challenged you, and build a better you.
Reevaluate the words you use. If your vocabulary has the words I can’t, I’ll try, I have to, is this possible, you already set yourself up for failure and victim mode